In the last post, we talked about the need to understand that everything has a voice.
Today, we will look at understanding the power of choosing our words.
Have you ever heard someone say, “I just had to say what I thought”?
No matter what thoughts enter our brain, our words are always a choice unless we have “given that power away.”
3 ways we can give away the power to choose our words
1. Power given by the act of being thoughtless
When we allow ourselves to lack restraint, we give the power to choose over to our personal “thoughtless” attitude. It starts with small bursts of just “letting go” and allowing anything to come out of our mouths, without even considering the impact. It starts to grows as we permit it to happen and count on loved ones to forgive us. At some point, the “thoughtless” attitude moves front and center, and we find that we have given the power to choose our words over to our emotions.
2. Power given away by believing in justification
When we allow a hurt we experience to grow in us, the mind believes that hurting others is justified because we’ve been hurt. We justify hurtful words based on previous hurtful words and it creates a vicious cycle. At that point, we give away our power to choose our words to the actions of someone else.
3. Power given away by pressure to not be yourself
When who were are is made to feel like that is not enough, we begin to use words of untruth to paint a picture of ourselves that is not real. We give the power of our words over to the pressure to perform other that what and who we are.
We must understand if we give away the power to choose our words, then we will be opening ourselves up to the results of words that we did not choose. Instead, our words will be of our past hurts, untruths of our imagination or the expectations of others. If you find yourself in any of these situations, take steps to change these habits so the power to choose your words is yours again.
It is my desire to inspire you to guard the gift of your voice and your choice. Do not to give it over to anyone or anything, if you want a well-crafted life and legacy for yourself!