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Talking vs. Conversing

I think it’s a safe to say that most people enjoy talking. You love to talk, don’t you? Of course you do! However, do you enjoy speaking? How often do you “speak” instead of just “talk”?

What about conversation? Are you the type of person who genuinely likes to converse?

You see, there is a difference between “talking”, “speaking”, and “conversing”. Here is a little insight to help you differentiate between the three and help you determine which you do the most!

0talkingTalking:

Talking is the verbal releasing of emotion by oneself or with others.  Talking is reactive and utilizes either your mind or your heart; but rarely bothSo when you ask the clerk at the drug store where she purchased that beautiful ring, you are reacting to something you see as beautiful; and very rarely does it go any further than that. 99% the time you won’t go buy one, you probably won’t even remember what store she mentioned once you got home… it was just reactive talking. Read More→

Own it!

Have you ever heard the term, “buzz word”? A “buzz word” is defined as a word, term, or phrase that is trendy or popular in a particular context or place in time.

More often than not, these “buzz words” are not just made up into existence. Usually, these terms already exist; but a sudden re-purposing of them causes a rise in popularity – often to the point where the original use is no longer used or even known to others!

GroovyFor example, think of the term “groovy”; you might hear this word and think of the 1960’s or 70’s when people used it to mean something is “cool” (yet another buzz word) or fashionable. Because that’s when it really caught on and became a popular term, or
became a “buzz word”!

 

You may be surprised to knoneedle-on-record-playerw that the term “groovy” actually originated in the 1920’s!

It was used by jazz musicians to refer to music that was played with a certain “finesse“. The term was based from the phrase “in the groove,” which was used to describe the way a needle on a record player followed the grooves of a record to produc e sound.

Neat, huh? And probably pretty different from what you originally thought about the word “groovy”. That’s how powerful “buzz words” can be! Their surge in popularity can completely change the connotation of a pre-existing term!

Every generation or season has different buzz words. Some come and go; and others have lasted through the ages. I don’t remember the last time I actually heard the term “groovy” used like it was in the 70’s; but people still use the term “cool” (and I don’t mean temperature), despite it’s origin dating all the way back to the 40’s!

If you haven’t been inspired by any buzz words or phrases in the past, consider this one: OWN IT!

nikeNike started the “Just do it!” campaign back in 1988, and it is still part of their campaign 25 years later. Why? Because it held us accountable and made us responsible for making us “OWN” our decision to exercise and lay aside all excuses. Wow!

The same principal needs to be true in all that we do as leaders.  We need to “OWN IT!”

But what exactly does it mean to “own it”?

Taking ownership of something is when we take full undisputed responsibility of it from beginning to end; no exception, no excuses. Just like Nike’s renowned 2-word campaign!

The phrase Own It in magazine letters on a cork notice board

Your life, your choices, your legacy; OWN IT!

Your responsibilities, your titles, your career; OWN IT!

“Own it” leaves no room for being a victim to your own choices or failures. Even if  you reach part of your journey where something happens that is beyond your control; you must still “own” that situation and figure out the next step and move on.

The only true failure is in giving up.

You need to OWN your choices in order to create your OWN legacy.

Every choice has it’s own voice. What do your choices say?

It is my desire to inspire you to “own” everything you do on your journey to create AWCL. Consider the voices of the choices you make, what they say about you and your legacy, and always remember to OWN IT!

 

3 Powerful Lessons on Leadership I Learned from Rocky

I must confess, I am a big Rocky fan!

Not as in rocky road ice cream but Rocky Balboa, the boxer played in the ‘Rocky’ movies by Sylvester Stallone.

rockyThe writers of this champion-birthing series crafted Rocky’s journey to make us love him and deeply relate to the personal ups and downs of an undeniable leader in his boxing world.

I was caught up and inspired again by “Creed”, the 7th movie in the ‘Rocky’ series where Sylvester Stallone (Rocky) finds himself training his former rival and friend, Apollo Creed’s son as a young boxer.


In the movie, Rocky is old and out of shape. He is looked on fondly by many as once a great fighter and leader but not anymore.

What he doesn’t realize, at the time, is that though a leader’s body may age, their heart does not. Read More→

How to Avoid Burnout Whether You Are A “Yes” Person or “No” Person

We all have our internal defaults. What are yours?

Is your glass half full or half empty? In your mind, are people innocent until proven guilty or guilty until proven innocent?

Think about it.

What about when it comes to the words “yes” and “no”? What is your default?

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Will you automatically say yes to almost any situation until you feel like you are physically unable? Do you still try to avoid saying no even if that is a case? Are you a yes person? Read More→

How Do You Define Collaboration?

Collaboration can be defined as working jointly with someone that we do not currently know well to achieve a desired endeavor of importance or impact.

Collaboration can also be defined as willingly assisting the enemy of a country or purpose to prevent them from succeeding.

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Interesting that this word can be defined as both a great help and a great hinderance, right?

Let’s break it down.

Co – working together

Lab – effort or experience

Or – or

Action – movement with purpose

When we collaborate with others, we are actually doing both sides of the definition.  We are collaborating to achieve a desired outcome, while also collaborating to not have a different outcome.

Collaboration is a powerful business concept.  Yet, it seems like, with the corporate environment, it is hard to get people to truly collaborate.  They will work with you but not really collaborate.

When we collaborate we have a shared and/or equal effort and/or investment focused on the same outcome.

Here are 4 keys to building a collaborative team: Read More→

5 Keys to Heathy Compassion

CompassionWhat do you think of when you hear the word compassion? Does it make you think of people that work with those that are terminally ill? Or does your mind go to people that go to third world countries to help starving children?

But what do you feel in your heart?  Compassion is one of our senses, like hearing or speaking, but we can dull that sense if we are not aware of what can cause this to happen.

We can do the same to all of our sense’s without realizing it.

For example, listening to loud music too much dulls the sense of hearing. 
Speaking, without thinking first, dulls our ability for impactful speaking. Read More→

Keeping Company: A Crafted Grace

I do not know where I learned it – maybe from my Mom or from my grandmother – but I learned how to “keep company.”

Keeping companyKeeping company is a form of communication and when done well, is a crafted grace that we all need to practice. Each of us will do it at different levels.

Most of us have been blessed enough to have experienced this in our own life.  It is that person that can read how you are doing on the inside without bringing it out on the outside to everyone else. Read More→

Is Your Life an Example of Reproducible Trust?

trustTrust is a living, active part of our Godly nature as a leader.  My first experience of trust in action (outside of family) was when I entered into women’s ministry in my church.

Let me set the stage:

A Pastor’s wife had been in charge of this ministry for many years and produced much fruit in women of all ages and walks of life.  It was God’s plan to connect me with this woman to be a co-leader in the women’s ministry.  I was full of myself (that is another post) and intimidated at the same time.  I had ministered to women in various settings but did not really embrace the leaders. I was just a help.

This woman embraced me like a long time friend, and she was so comfortable in her skin and just being her.  Talented, gifted, sharp, experienced, full of life, and ok with it all. the most important thing was she walked, spoke and lived with a mantle of trust I had never experienced or seen before.

The most important thing, though, was she walked, spoke and lived with a mantle of trust I had never experienced or seen before.

I did not trust because I had been disappointed and hurt often.  So I was ok with co-leading with such a gifted leader, but that mantle of trust really made me squirrelly.

Could it really be that she was what I saw, someone I could trust?  I mean trust with everything, in everything and without expecting anything from me but the same.

That is walking win a reproducing power that I wanted and I watched very carefully for years. That trust was never mistreated.

Trust can not be saved or hidden. To really walk in trust and express trust, you have to put it out there for inspection, and she did with such grace and poise.

4 things you will see from a person that walks in the mantle of expressed trust:

  1. Love just because it is the right thing to do. My example of trust loved me without knowing me. She loved me because she knew it was just the right thing to do with someone that God had connected her to in ministry.  Friendship came later. In the beginning, she just loved, and that was the seed of trust being implanted in me.
  2. Lead egoless. She had so much to offer but always gave opportunity to other women to use their gifts.  She knew she could do it better, but leading means to open opportunities to others to learn to lead.  She walked in a humility that watered the seed of trust in me.
  3. Laugh at opposition. Her laugh had a fire to it that made anything or anyone that was out to cause trouble to backup and give it more thought.  She did not call anyone out. She just laughed at opposition in a protective mother bear expression that gave me hope of her love for us was real. This laughter at opposition was the support that my sead of trust needed as it grew.
  4. Limitless help. To this day, I do not know how she did it all, but she helped everyone that God put in her path.  Her help was always based on the truth of the situation not what I wanted.  I may have asked her to help me prepare a teaching, and she would look straight at me and say, “You don’t need help. You got this.” She was not trying to be a crutch for anyone but a help to grow and move forward in our own skin.  This selfless, honest help gave roots to the trust that had been growing.

Trust from people is a great blessing, but unless we give that trust to others and live it, it will not reproduce itself in others.

It is my desire to inspire you (and me) to walk in trust daily and to inspire others to do the same.  It is not always convenient or easy to live with trust, but seeing others grow in doing the same is priceless.

 

 

 

The Unspoken Requirement of Excellent Leadership

I have been a leader with a title and a leader without one.  I have been a leader by default and by selection. Leadership is not always something we work or aim for; sometimes, it finds us.

I have learned so much being a leader. I have had some wonderful role models and some terrible ones, but I have learned through them all.

Each person has taught me something that has made me a better leader and has made me realize the great responsibility of leadership, regardless of how I ended up leading.

ForgiveOne of the unspoken musts of leadership is forgiveness.  If we are going to lead well, we must forgive often and completely.  A leader cannot afford to hold on to past mistakes of their team because over time it will cripple the team and corrupt the leader.

A leader that will not totally forgive mistakes will begin to move by manipulation in the delegation of assignments and will eventually become untrusting and therefore, unable to be trusted. Read More→

Leaders, Are You Leading with Imperfections and Integrity?

imperfectionWe must be perfect to be a great leader – perfectly imperfect.  As leaders, letting others see our imperfections, though, is not enough.  We must talk about them with our team, with honesty, as an example for them to do the same.

Integrity is the most critical leadership trait no matter how many you lead and no matter if it is a paid or volunteer position.

Integrity in leadership is defined as not perfection but incorruptible, not perfect but upright, not perfect but honest, not perfect but decent and undivided for the purpose of the execution of an assignment, position or valued impact.

As the leader of your team, family, church, neighborhood or business, your leadership will only be as strong as your integrity and openness of your imperfection.

Imperfection does not mean wrong, or wrongful, but more so in leadership, imperfection means appreciative of others gifts, strengths, and talents.

3 Ways an Imperfect Leader Walks in Upright Integrity

  1. They take responsibility.  An imperfect leader will quickly take responsibility for the results of everyone’s efforts without excuse.
     
    Example: A leader immediately sees failure in the team as a failure of their leadership, and works behind the scene to build up the team to prevent the repeat of that failure.
  2. They share the credit. An imperfect leader will quickly point to their team for the all successes realizing that they can not accomplish anything without a unified team.
     
    Example: A leader turns the light of praise on to the team for all noteworthy accomplishments, and then gathers the members together to let them gleam from each other on “how they did it” and to determine what the next challenge will be.
  3. They let people go. An imperfect leader will strive to raise up a team of people that is better than him or her self, a team that desires to go further – without fear of people leaving the team.
     
    Example: A leader encourages his best people to reach out for more than he has for them, but equips and trains them until and even after, they move on to the next designed step for them.  Once a team member, always part of his legacy team.

It is my desire to inspire you to be the best imperfect leader you can be and to raise up more of the same.  There will never be too many imperfect leaders walking in upright integrity.

Be Inspired Today,
Jane